Daphne | What is love?

Realm of my Thoughts

Love means different things to everyone. When was the last time you were asked about what love is?  What came into your mind?

Love is a universal language. Love is a choice. Love is about giving. Love knows no rules. Love hurts. Love moves mountains. Love is blind. Love is patient. Love simply is. 

Our love list can go on and on because love is more than just the love we think we know.

Everyone has a story to tell about love, and here’s a good one from a dearest friend of mine.

What is love?
by Daphne Duhaylungsod

Who else is in the mood for love talks?

What is love? We have read several articles, other literature, and even watched movies about love, and yet this magical word “love” still gives us goosebumps, and we are still confused about what it really is.

For most people, love is broader than it seems and more complex than we can imagine! This makes me wonder what people who are past their primes have to say about love. It is surely a roller coaster sentiments of both the tangible and intangible aspects of love.

In John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Jesus Christ suffered and sacrificed himself to save us from sin. In this context, suffering and sacrifice are associated with God’s love.

Do you think love has to do with suffering and sacrifice? Maybe yes, maybe no. How we view love depends, too, on how we embrace our own understanding of life and circumstances we are in.

During my younger years, I associated love with attachment. Love was clinging to a person or thing, without realizing that holding on too tight wasn’t helping. Love was driven by the fear of losing the person you love. At some point, I realized that this selfish kind of love isn’t what love should be.

Love in its truest form is about allowing yourself and the person you love to grow as an individual.

I married my first love at an early age, and I wasn’t matured enough that time. However, embracing motherhood at 19 has taught me different kinds of love and various ways of giving love, and this helped me grow as an individual. The love I can give as a mother is truly unconditional, knowing that my children now rely on me; and this kind of love has made me realize my life’s purpose.

I also discovered self-love, a deep sense of understanding and acceptance of everything I have within.

Love is also a decision. You choose to love the person you love everyday. You choose to understand the people you love despite everything.

Love is unconditional and selfless, and love understands deeply no matter how hard things get.

At this point in my life, this is what love is.


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